Hair Matters 3.5

This will be the third hair care post on mytwintopia. The first time was when the girls were under a year old and the next time was when they were 15 months old. Now, they're almost 4 years old and a lot of things have changed about our hair care routine. Here are the highlights of some of those changes and what I've learned along the way:

Set Goals: If there's one attribute that makes me standout, it's my hair. I'm always cutting, styling and dyeing it and sometimes that is not a good thing. So now I'm learning to set hair goals not just for myself but also for the girls. My goal for their hair is length and health - healthy shoulder-length before they go into kindergarten September 2015.

Why? Because lets be honest, hair is one of the image struggles black females have and kindergarten is just about the time when little girls of African descent start noticing the differences between their hair and Caucasian hair. I know at that age, all I wanted to do was "whip my hair" and my girls are beginning to have the same feelings and requesting for their hair to "shake". If I can take care of their hair so they have good length, then the pressure to get a perm is removed.

Collaborate: My babies have started having opinions about everything including their clothes, accessories and hair styles. Before I could slap a style on their head and call it good. Now it's a collaborative process with them telling me what they want and me finding the easiest way to get it done. Current request is "Mickey Mouse Hair". I did this and Sugar complained that it looked like a bunny and not Mickey Mouse. Will try again



Accessorize: For the first couple of years, I didn't use any bows, beads etc on the girls' hair to prevent breakage due to strain. Now we have a plethora of accessories which I keep in a craft box purchased from Michaels

   

The beads and clips collection

Personalize: The twins' hair texture is as different as their personalities and I choose hair products and styles based on their hair texture and their personality. For example:

Spice has a full head of hair with 4a texture in front and 4b texture at the back. Her scalp is also very sensitive and she can't sit for long styling periods. I use heavier products for her hair and stick to simple single braid styles because cornrows on her take forever. Her hair hates protein products

Sugar has fine, low density 4b hair that breaks easily. She can sit for longer complicated styles so I usually cornrow her hair to keep the weight off individual strands and also use lightweight products. Her hair loves and needs protein products

Style Regimen: Styling for 2 kids (plus myself) is a whole weekend thing but I break it into shorter length sessions to avoid mummy-burnout and kiddie-tantrums. So I can take out a style on Friday evenings, wash on Saturday and style on Sunday
I change the styles every 1-2 weeks depending on neatness. 
Shampoos are every other week. I wish I could buy a shampoo bowl but there's no where to store it when not in use. One change I'm also implementing is shampooing with the style in to prevent major tangling issues. 
I try to stick to simple styles and leave the intricate ones for special occassions. 
I learnt a lot from blogs and youtube and my skills are definitely better today than 2 years ago. I was able to buy a kid's styling chair on kijiji so I can stand upright while making their hair. My back sent me a thank you note the other day! All styling is done in front of the TV. 

Products: Here's a list of our hair products and styling aids and where we get them

• Herbal essence hello hydration shampoo and conditioner from Grocery store
• Selsun blue antidandruff shampoo from Grocery store
• Kinky-Curly Knot Today Leave In Conditioner/Detangler - 8 oz for Spice (I stock up on US trips to Target)
• Mane 'n Tail Detangler for Sugar (and mummy) from Walmart
• Denman tangle tamer for brushing the stands after detangling with afro comb from Amazon
• Tangle Teezer for the "kitchen" area from Amazon or Sally's
• Afro comb from comb section of various stores
• Sulphur 8 extra strength cream for their scalps from Walmart
• Giovanni Vitapro Fusion Leave-In Hair Treatment for Sugar's hair from Winners or Real Canadian Superstore
• Giovanni Direct Leave-In Conditioner for moisturizing with styles in from Winners or Real Canadian Superstore
• Castor oil alone or mixed with jojoba oil for seal moisture with styles in from the pharmacy, health food stores, Amazon or ethnic hair store
• Cutting comb from Nigeria
• Boar bristle brush that's not too stiff from comb section of various stores
• A collection of hand towels that are reserved for hair only.
• Sleep caps (which are not always used) and satin pillowcases from Sally's or Amazon (the Betty Dain brand. It feels very stiff when new but softens up after washing)

When I recall that on their first birthday the girls had teeny-weeny afros, I appreciate how far we've come and really love the hair journey we're sharing as a family.
 

Hair at their first birthday photo shoot

PS: In case you're wondering about MY hairstyle, I've gone from dreadlocks to afro to texturized afro to red afro to mohawk to very short afro to very short afro with red highlights THIS year alone! Yes, I need that vision board. 

 I blame my hair shenanigans on midlife crisis. What's the most adventurous thing you've done with your hair lately?

This Week in 5: Edition 19

1. We're knee-deep into summer here in Calgary and totally enjoying regular visits to Calgary Farmers Market. The sweet kale salad has turned me into a salad-eater
2. When vision boards became "the thing", I kinda rolled my eyes at the concept. Not withstanding I do believe in writing down goals and setting reminders for your self. With that in mind, I just put this wooman-i-do-no-know's picture on my bathroom wall to remind myself of what I want my hair to look like when I turn 40. Guess I believe in vision boards afterall! Those grey locs are speaking to me :) 
3. I don't think there's any parent in Calgary that's not immensely saddened and horrified by the tragedy that happened to Nathan O'Brien and his grandparents. Erin put to words what most of us struggle to describe
4. According to the TV in the elevator, Amazon is introducing the Netflix of books. All the books you want to read for $9.99 a month. I'm beyond giddy.
   
5. In case your stomach feels too empty and your wallet too full, you can indulge in the world's most expensive food