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Twin Parenting Lesson 1: Learning Styles Edition

"The market has more than one entry"

That's my literal translation of a yoruba proverb (ono kan o w'oja) which just means there's more than one way of achieving a goal or getting somewhere. It's one of those sayings that's had moments in my life when it was my mantra. Yesterday, I had THAT moment again when it came to my twins, how they learn and their approach to tasks.

It actually started a few months back when I was trying to teach them to count objects on the pages of a counting book. Sugar quickly grasped the concept and could count along the line of objects but Spice struggled. She would skip objects and jump lines and I knew a moment of hyperventilating-panic. Girl's got a 4 of engineers and a maths teacher in her direct genealogy and she can't count a line of 6 fish???  This mama had to work hard not to panic. I reminded myself that she's still young and there's plenty of time to learn to count and that was it. 

The next day as we dro…

Dare to be Different

Dare to be different! 

No matter where we decide to plant the roots of our family - Lagos, Houston or Calgary - you'll always stand out because of who you are, your background and your personal story.

Standing out is not a bad thing. Don't try to blend in to be more accepted. Dare to standout and be different; because you already are.

This April, I'm participating in 2 blog challenges and want to use that as motivation to write not about my twins but for my twins. They have a unique heritage of being born in the US to Nigerian parents and then growing up in Canada. There's at least 3 major cultures that they have to straddle and this is number 4 of the 26 things I have to tell my twin girls about who they are and their heritage.

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beerholder

"Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder"

My beauty-filled daughters

I first read the quote "beauty is in the eye of the beerholder" when I was in my late teens and I assumed it meant that when you're drunk, everyone looks good. As I grew older, I revised my original interpretation of this saying. Now I think it means that the people who see themselves as the global gatekeepers of beauty are drunk. 

They have to be right? Otherwise why would I have to give up on buying the popular beauty magazines because I didn't see anyone in the pages that looked like me and all the makeup and hair styling tips were eye-rollingly stupid and catered to a different demographic! But my one woman protest did not change the fact that I couldn't even find a suitable foundation in the makeup aisle. And I searched. And despaired. 

Until... IMAN. She did for me what Alek Wek did for Lupita Nyong'O

This was an African woman that the "gatekeepers" allowed to grace the p…

Africa is Continent

My twins have a unique heritage of being born in the US to Nigerian parents and then growing up in Canada. There's at least 3 major cultures that they have to straddle and I have a few things to tell them, starting with...

Africa is a continent

My darling daughters,

As you grow older, you'll notice something about the way people talk about Africa in US and Canada. By default, a lot of people still talk about Africa in a black hole sense - dark, confusing and we don't know what's going on. The most infuriating example of this may be in church when they talk about missionary trips. "We're sending missionaries to New Orleans, Cambodia and Africa." Every other place gets to be a named town or city or country. Everything that encompasses Africa gets to be lumped under the dark umbrella "Africa".

Feel free to let people know that there are over 50 countries in Africa hosting 15% of the world's population speaking over 2000 languages with most people b…