The 30 Year Parenting Plan

Ms Spice helping grandpa with his button
I've just returned from a very short 6 day trip to Nigeria. I went alone. As in without the girls. As in I left my babies for 7 whole days!!! I think it was harder on me than on them but it had to be done as I really wanted to see my dad who's health has been quite poor lately.

The 46 hours of travel time plus the situation got me thinking about parenting beyond the first 20 years. My default parenting setting seems to have stopped at getting my college-graduates to move out of the house. The end! I've never really thought about my dreams as a parent when my kids are in their 30s and 40s and I'm knocking the door on 70. 

Now I've had a couple of weeks to think about it and to resolve on some lifestyle changes for parenting beyond the first 20 years.

As much as it's within my control, I'd like to be in good shape physically so I can enjoy my kids and grandkids(?) and vice-versa. That means I have to take the issue of eating healthy more seriously. It's time to look at the health risks I already have and adapt my diet and lifestyle to ensure that those risks do not become full-blown problems. Specifically, since I know that I have PCOS, I'm slowly easing myself into a low-carb diet that I can stick with longterm
Ditto exercise and keeping fit. Pretending to be oblivious to the fact that I cannot climb a flight of stairs without being out of breath has to be a thing of the past. I need to get some cardio into this body ASAP
I need to spend more time nurturing my hobbies/interests/social network outside of work and the kids. I don't want to be that bored and listless retiree when the kids have all flown the coop.
I need to have a good grip and balance on my finances so that my kids don't face any financial pressure on my behalf
I've heard the term "sandwich generation" thrown about in the past but never paid too much attention to it until now. Now I realize that not only do I fit into that group, so do all of my friends. When you're smack-dab in the middle of aging parents and young kids, self care is usually the last thing on your mind but it is the most critical favor you can do for yourself. In due time, I expect that I will be the top slice of another sandwich generation and the steps that I take now; will determine how much easier I make things for my babies. 

Have you given much thought to your 30 year parenting plan yet?
Twinkly Tuesday


  1. I have given NO thought at all to this! Other than trying my best to ensure my children are financially secure, as this was something my parents didn't do for me. Food for thought this! x #twinklytuesday

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  2. Gosh, no I haven’t! I’ve only been a parent for two and a half years and it’s definitely not something that has been on my agenda. That said, I am aware that I want to be as fit and healthy when I am older. My mum who is 60 next year looks after my boy three times a week. I like to think I’ll be in a good enough shape to do that at her age! Thanks for putting this into my head, it’s certainly not just about the here and now, but lots about the future us. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  3. I'm so sorry that your father is unwell. I think about this ALL the time. In fact, when we go to the gym on Saturday morning, I always tell the girls it's so I can be the great grandma who crawls around on the floor with her great grandkids. J very helpfully let me know that no amount of exercise will keep me around past 112 years old. #TwinklyTuesday

  4. I have a support group for health and fitness which has been helpful in keeping me on track... Still working on the finances and other personal goal...😌

  5. I have been more focused on fitness especially with the help from a support group and personal trainer... I'm still working on getting the finances in order for retirement or praying I win the lottery...😌

  6. I've read this post twice. I keep thinking about it. I am so sorry about your dad. My own mother died when I was 20, and it's always been in the back of my mind that I don't have a full lifetime with my girls so I have to pack it all in when they are young. Isn't that awful? I'm glad you are starting to think about taking care of yourself... you definitely deserve it, sweet friend. I guess I should start thinking the same way as you!

  7. I know I'm reading this almost a year later but it is a real food for thought !!


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